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Shared Parenting NGO to launch in India

It is high time that Indian judiciary warmed up to the idea of shared parenting. In recent years India has not only become a safe haven for child abductions from abroad but as the rates of divorce have skyrocketed more and more moms are not only making children fatherless by abducting them but also gaining sole custody in keeping with age old indian custody laws (which do not even allow for joint custody unless the parents themselves request for it).

Mr Kumar Jagirdhar, the ex-husband of cricketer Anil Kumble’s wife Chetana, is now batting for dads who are deprived of the love of their children. He has decided to launch an organisation named Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting after feeling sad at only being given rights to “visit” his daughter by the courts. Over 200 fathers, including professionals from various sectors, have joined hands with him to form CRISP, which will be officially launched on June 12.

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IT IS NOW THE TURN OF FATHERS TO CLAIM THE RIGHTS TO BRING UP THEIR CHILDREN

Bengaluru, June 8: It is now the turn of the father to claim the
rights to bring up his children. Over 200 fathers, including Chetana
Kumble’s ex-husband Kumar Jahgirdar, software professional Gaurav
Nigam and hundreds of other professionals have come together to form
`CRISP’ — Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting. Upholding the
mantra of shared parenting, the organisation will be launched
officially on June 12.

Speaking to this newspaper, Mr Kumar Jahgirdhar, the president of the
organisation, said, “Fathers are not visitors to get visitation
permits from courts. So the organisation aims to fight for the equal
rights of the fathers and their parents to enjoy their equal share of
love from their children and grand children.” Explaining the purpose
of this organisation, Mr Jahgirdar quoted various studies conducted in
the US which found 70 per cent of young criminals are the ones brought
up by single parents. The studies also connected issues like youth
suicides, kids running away from homes, behavioural disorders, teen
pregnancies, serial-rapists and high school dropouts to the upbringing
minus fathers.

“This shows that fathers have a greater role to play in a child’s
life. According to a proverb, a father is better than a hundred
teachers,” he claimed. Interestingly, Mr Jahgirdar was inspired to
start this organisation after he fought in the Supreme Court for his
daughter Aaruni’s custody and managed to get her custody for 110 days
a year, including during weekends and vacations. The organisation will
also look into the legal hurdles while asking for shared parenting.

Mr Gaurav Nigam, a software engineer who has claimed his four year old
son Pulkit’s custody from his ex-wife Tripthi Nigam, said: “We are
closely studying the United Nations Convention on `Rights of the
Child’ so that we can make comparisons and argue our case better.”

“One should understand how difficult it will be on the father’s part
to suddenly part with his child,” said another member of the
organisation, who didn’t want to reveal his identity. Agreeing to
this, Mr Nigam said, “I miss my kid like anything. Most laws related
to children’s custody in broken marriages are biased and pro-women.”
“We wish to bring a total revolution in the mindsets of the lawmakers
by creating awareness about the equal importance of both parents in
the life of a kid. Our organisation aims to bring in that change,” he
adds.

He said Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting would be a
national organisation. “We have already got 200 enquiries from various
parts of India including from Hyderabad and other places. Even some
non-resident Indians too have shown interest in joining us,” he added.
Contact CRISP on 080-25593 848.

IT’S FATHERS VS MOTHER

Bengaluru, June 8: Are fathers capable of taking care of their kids
alone, even if it is in case of shared parenting for a short while?
Going by the expert advice, yes, both the parents are equally
competent of taking care of their kids, but not in the Indian set up.

Dr. Vidhya Raghudutt, a psychologist, says, “As per the culture and
tradition in India, women have learnt to manage both the home and
office and they are more capable of taking care of their children.”
However, she was quick to add that the trend is changing. On the role
parents play in a child’s life, she says, “Parents are the role models
to their children. Daughters wish to enjoy the affection of their
father and from the age of 7 to 9, they try to win the attention of
father by fighting with their mothers and later, they will inculcate
the qualities of mother to impress their fathers.”

So, father is a hero to them, she says. “This is called Electra
complex and the contra is true with sons, which is called Oedipus
complex. So later in their life, daughters relate their relationships
with men to their fathers, and sons relate their association with
women to their mothers,” says Dr Vidhya. Having no parents or single
parents is accepted. But having parents and the families as empty
shells are not good enough. If the children are not getting love and
care, it will affect the personality of the child, she added.

Another psychologist Alikhwaja says, “It is very difficult for a
father to bring up the kids all alone. Older and college going
children are exceptions. In the changing times, even this may change
with time.” Quoting the Section 6 of Hindu Minority and Gaurdianship
Act, advocate Krishna Kumar said the child should be with the mother
when he or she is below the age of 5, if they are healthy enough to
take care of the kid. The Gaurdian and Wards Act says the husbands
can claim for their child’s custody.

SINGLE FATHERS FORM NEW FORUM

Bengaluru June 14: It was all for their share of love from their
beloved children! It’s Fathers Day on Sunday. Time for fathers and
their children to celebrate their relationship, the love they share.
But for some fathers it is a painful experience as they are permitted
to visit their children only on a designated day and time. They do
get the chance to watch their children grow or even cuddle them when
they feel like. Tears rolled down Rakesh Kapur’s cheeks when he said,
“Tishya, my baby girl was just three-and-a-half months-old when I and
my wife got separated. I rarely get to see my beloved daughter forget
about pampering or cuddling her.”

Kapur, who is an IT professional, says “My daughter did not recognise
me when I recently met her in court”. Rakesh’s, wife Madhuri
reportedly left him after he returned from the US. She reportedly
wanted him to go back to the US, but he refused to do so. This
reportedly was the cause for her to leave him. He wore a T Shirt with
a picture of his baby, below which read, “Daddy’s little princess”.
More than 120 such fathers, which includes mostly software Engineers
and IT professionals, either divorced or separated from their wives,
raised their voice demanding shared parenting, under the aegis of
CRISP (Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting), on the eve of
Fathers’ Day. The organisation is being led by by Chetana Kumble’s
ex-husband, Kumar V. Jahgirdhar.

They held placards with pictures of their children and wore T-Shirts
which read, “I believe in Shared Parenting”. More than 20 fathers who
are fighting for their child’s custody in courts in various places
including Mysore, Delhi, Hyderabad and Chennai, made their way to
participate in the protest which went on from 10 am to 12.30 pm.
Sharing his experience another software engineer, Ritesh Saxena said:
“I have the visiting rights for my six-and-a-half-year-old son Anish
for an hour. It is Fathers’ Day tomorrow. But I must celebrate it
today as I am meeting him today.”

Do to Renuka what F4J did to Harriet Harman

To succeed, any movement must have slogans that “say it all” to communicate an irrefutable message that everyone instantly understands.

Yesterday, F4J staged another great protest, scaling the home of British feminist minister “Ms.” Harriet Harmon, who has been actively destroying marriage and fatherhood in Britain.

For the protest, F4J unveiled the best slogan I have seen in years: “A Father Is For Life, Not Just Conception“. If that does not say it all, I don’t know what does.

READ DAVID USHER’S FULL ARTICLE HERE

BBC ARTICLE AND VIDEOS HERE

SUPPORT? READY FOR RELEASE TODAY

Premiere Screening today May 17th in San Diego

SUPPORT? is a film that covers the everyday issues of stress, family, struggle, and suffering that families experience when put through the detrimental, winding maneuvers of the Family Court systems, which are flooded with more cases than the labor force can handle or chooses NOT to handle.

Finally, a shocking documentary that exposes the truth! Hear what experts say about how some have figured out how to make money by emphasizing on divorce and child support issues between men and women through court orders. Parents are made to pay exorbitant amounts of money in exchange for their CREDIT, HOMES, BANK ACCOUNTS, and even their FREEDOM!

Corruption “It’s Billions of Dollars – It’s Far Beyond What The Mafia Ever Did”

Its About The Kids “Parental Suicide Does Go Up Five Times For Fit Parents That Are Removed From Their Children”

Divorce Is Ugly Business “Every County in America and Every State in America is Financially Incentivized to Ruin Families”

War Is Hell – Child Support Doesn’t Have To Be! “They (Military Reservists) go off to war and they have been paying child support based on an income they are no longer making”

A critical analysis of state incentives and child support payments

The True Equality Network is a group of mostly women 40,000 strong who are a rational group unlike most radical feminists and are advocates of shared parenting who recognize the tremendous bias against dads in family courts. Recently Terri Lynn Tersak wrote a very informative detailed piece that details the economic motives behind child support, the motives behind how the state acts and why the states do not and never will collect child support arrearages.

There are several key messages and data in this piece that all of us should have at our fingertips to understand the real problem as opposed to getting carried away by what we see in the media or what is communicated based on cursory analyses.

read the full article here

The Federal incentives under the failed “Child Support Incentive and Performance Act” (CSPIA) actually pays the states more money not to collect child support arrearages than it does for collecting them and that most of the people screaming about the problems with child support are missing the most critical point; the fighting is all about the money, not about our children.

SOME KEY FACTOIDS

1)      The US Census Bureau reports that 90% of fathers with joint custody, 79.1% of fathers with visitation rights, and 44.5% of father with no visitation rights pay their child support in full.

2)      Parents who are wrongly denied visitation with children don’t pay child support regardless of the enforcement actions taken over 60% of the time.

3)      Less than 5% of male child support obligors who legitimately qualify for federally required downward modifications in their child support orders are granted reductions.

4)      The US Department of Health and Human Services (DHHS) Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE) reports that 70% of all outstanding child support arrearages are owed by obligors’ earring less than $10,000.00 per year. Most of the arrearages from this group remain unpaid after ten years.

5)      DHHS-OCSE reports that approximately 5% of all outstanding child support arrearages are owed by obligors earning over $40,000.00 per year and 100% of the arrearages owed by this group are paid within ten years.

6)      US Census Bureau figures show only 57 percent of moms and 68 percent of dads required to pay child support pay all they owe.

7)      The most effective and cost effect method of child support enforcement is enforcement of custody and visitation orders.

8 )      The most common method of wrongly reducing a parent’s time with their children is through false claims of abuse.

9)      Since 1999, every state has cut state level funding for child support enforcement by as much as 32%.

10)   False claims of abuse are so pervasive our states have started passing laws making it a criminal act to do so (The sad thing is; filing false claims of abuse is perjury and perjury has always been a crime).

One of the sources of income for the state is the “incentive payment pool”. However, a states share of the pie is much higher if the administrative costs of collecting child support is lower i.e. the states are incented based on their cost effectiveness of collecting child support payments. Hence the popularity of wage garnishment since it keeps administrative costs low, thereby increasing effectiveness, thereby increasing a state’s share of the incentive pool.

As you go down the income range of obligors, each state hits a break point where they make more money not collecting an arrearage as they would collecting. Moreover, at the bottom of the scale, they can actually loose incentive monies by collecting these accounts.

The third “class” of child support monies is called, “Collected, undistributed.” That means the states actually collected the money, but did not pay it to the parent who was expecting it. This collective amount of collected but not distributed child support payments in every state is not a trivial amount. The states will tell you they have no idea where these parents are. They tell the parents expecting the money, it wasn’t paid by obligor and it sits in interest bearing accounts and the states get to keep the interest. How do they make this work? Because fighting parents do not speak with each other and get their information from the state.

The parents who need the child support the most get the least amount of service, so our welfare reform is not replacing public assistance, it simply abandoned the neediest and their children.

Today, the American male is taught to believe that violent behavior by women is “comical” and that pusillanimous submission to violent women means you are “sensitive” and therefore worthy of being with a woman. While at the same time any type of violent behavior on the part of a man requires they receive “social retraining” and/or are incarcerated.

In order for the states to get the biggest piece of the big pie as they can, they need a lot of child support to be collected. To that end, they need a lot of child support on their books. So, they must generate the maximum amount of child support per case and being that their budgets depend on those incentives, they have to find a way to maintain those levels in as many cases as they can.

Based solely on ideology and government-funded, industry promoted propaganda, today the generally accepted perception is that only men are abusive in intimate relations and only women are abused. Only men fail to pay child support and only women suffer from the system. The long established facts clearly demonstrated by hundreds of peer-reviewed research studies show that none of this is true. Yet radical ideologues demand ever more draconian intervention with total disregard for due process and the rule of law. There is no effective oversight of what the funding is really spent on; and that the present system not only fails to serve, but abuses the abused. Yet zealots demand more of the same and ever more government funding. This is a classic approach of bureaucracies. If the current approach does not work, the obvious solutions are to throw more money at the problems and hire more bureaucrats to promote the party line.

Enforcing child’s education by sending Dad to jail

BREAKING NEWS: After the outrage, judge saves face and DAD is released

A judge ordered the father to stay on top of his daughter’s education months ago and when that order wasn’t followed, Brian Gegner was sentenced to 180-days in the Butler County jail.

The daughter, Brittany Gegner, says her father shouldn’t be punished for her problems. Especially, she says because she’s now 18, an adult. “It’s ridiculously wrong,” said Brittany Gegner.

“Of all the punishments they could have given him, to make him go to jail?,” she asked. “I mean, probation – until I get my GED – would be reasonable, but to send him to jail? That’s overboard.”

read entire article here

Can you f…ing believe this??

Christopher Ratte, professor in the department of classics at the University of Michigan, was recently turned into a jailbird and had his son taken away from him, all in the name of protecting the child from the father. He had taken his 7-year-old son to a baseball game in Detroit and ordered him lemonade. What was served up was a “Mike’s Hard Lemonade,” which his son prepared to drink. Suddenly security arrived.

“You know this is an alcoholic beverage?” the security guard asked.

“You have got to be kidding,” responded the professor. And before the professor could examine the bottle, the guard snatched it away, and the boy was taken to the hospital where no traces of alcohol were found in him. The boy was then promptly put in foster care. It was two days before the mother, a professor of architecture, was allowed to take him home, and a full week before the father was allowed to come back into the home again.

This is the limits of the state getting involved in the family and playing with fire. To concede that the state can indeed solve social problems that cannot be corrected without the state, is to give up the entire argument over the future of liberty itself.

Children are often used as an excuse for the state to invade private lives under the guise of fixing social problems, read here for a critical analysis by Lew Rockwell