Category Archives: divorce

SUPPORT? READY FOR RELEASE TODAY

Premiere Screening today May 17th in San Diego

SUPPORT? is a film that covers the everyday issues of stress, family, struggle, and suffering that families experience when put through the detrimental, winding maneuvers of the Family Court systems, which are flooded with more cases than the labor force can handle or chooses NOT to handle.

Finally, a shocking documentary that exposes the truth! Hear what experts say about how some have figured out how to make money by emphasizing on divorce and child support issues between men and women through court orders. Parents are made to pay exorbitant amounts of money in exchange for their CREDIT, HOMES, BANK ACCOUNTS, and even their FREEDOM!

Corruption “It’s Billions of Dollars – It’s Far Beyond What The Mafia Ever Did”

Its About The Kids “Parental Suicide Does Go Up Five Times For Fit Parents That Are Removed From Their Children”

Divorce Is Ugly Business “Every County in America and Every State in America is Financially Incentivized to Ruin Families”

War Is Hell – Child Support Doesn’t Have To Be! “They (Military Reservists) go off to war and they have been paying child support based on an income they are no longer making”

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An Economic Theory of Why Women do what they do?

Some women do real horrible things that are beyond belief. Take this example

  • Husband goes to war in Iraq
  • Wife cleans him out without his knowledge (forges his signature, takes out his money, buys a new house, sells the old house etc.)
  • files for divorce and takes custody of the chidren
  • husband comes back to devastation, homelessness, and penniless
  • courts do not convict wife, gets stayed sentence for check forgery
  • husband will likely lose custody of the children and husband will be asked to pay support

read the story here

Many women do this, stabbing husbands in the back and walking away w/ their kids for no apparent reason. Mostly women initiate this and husbands are the ones who hold out in hopes of reconciliation. WHY? Maybe the answer lies in utility theory, which postulates that people make choices in life that maximize their utility

  • The utility from marriage for women is in childbirth, raising the children, being loved by someone, and the money that the husband earns which helps run the family
  • Over time the utility of marriage decreases because children are born, they reach a certain age where they need not be cared for intensely, and love dwindles over time in most marriages unless BOTH husband and wife work hard to maintain it. The only utility that remains is from the money that husbands earn
  • The utility of the alternative (splitting up and taking the children and living with old parents or independently) increases over time especially if women can access the money (they steal some and the rest is granted to them by courts as child/spousal support
  • So why do husband’s hold out in the hope of reconciliation? Because most husbands go to work everyday and earn money for their family, so they can keep their wives happy and raise the kids to be honorable citizens. That is how they derive utility from the marriage and it does not decrease over time, in fact it increases over time as kids grow older, demands for money increase (kids have to go to college etc) and husbands work even harder to hold the family together
  • Now when the wife initiates divorce husbands find themselves stuck doing the job to pay child/spousal support, hardly get to see their kids, and have of course lost their wife, have suffered at the hands of the skeptical society that thinks they must have done some wrong etc. So the utility of the situation they are in is really really low and they are unable to find an alternative with higher utility. This is what also leads to SUICIDES

Hence it is imperative to keep the flame of love going since the utility of love for the woman has to be kept high–that is the only hope for men. The courts cannot provide love and love cannot be bought. OR men have to find an alternative with higher utility which is made extremely hard by the family court system and is especially hard when kids are involved.

MAKE SENSE???? PLEASE LEAVE YOUR COMMENTS

Jahgirdar, Kumble and their wife: Is anyone thinking about the little girl?

Many have seen this case in the media over the years and followed it. However we may not have looked at it in its entirety

This case fascinates me because it seems to be a classic example of the stupidity of parents (in this case it seems the stupidity was initiated by the mom) who cannot rise above the pettiness of their squibbles over the child in the best interests of the child. It is also an example where the parents started out very rationally and logically but then things went downhill from there. This case is also a classic example where the child was a football, treated as such not only by the parents but also by the courts. It also seems to be an example where as far as custody of daughter is concerned, a woman does not need to resort to false allegations, helping daughter grow up during puberty is enough. Finally i think this case clearly shows that parents should not expect the courts to sort out their family problems for them but try their best to work out solutions themselves. Unfortunately divorce destroys the mind of both parents and they cannot talk and reason rationally with each other any more. This case also shows that Indian courts and law do not give two hoots about joint custody, the LAWS NEED TO CHANGE. In this particular case an order of joint custody was challenged and overturned in a very short period of time and this violation of justice never came up in any of the SC proceedings at all.

I have attached the relevant judgements here but here is a summary that proves my above points

1. Marriage dissolved by mutual consent in 1999

2. Both parents agree to be joint guardians and custodians with child shifting alternate weeks between both parents — STARTED OUT REALLY WELL, NO FALSE ALLEGATIONS

3. Mommy soon after marries Anil Kumble and starts filing in family court for permanent custody and for taking child abroad, possibly for cricket matches — WHAT HAPPENED, AGREES IN APRIL 1999 FOR JOINT AND IN A FEW MONTHS FILES FOR PERMANENT CUSTODY??

4. Family court agrees for child being taken abroad with certain conditions but does not change custody decree

5. Mom challenges family court order in HC who gives custody for one year to mom and visitation to Dad Jahgirdar–THIS IS WHEN THINGS START GOING DOWNHILL…..DID THE HC REALIZE THE IMPLICATIONS OF MODIFYING THE CUSTODY ORDER ON DAD?

6. Jahgirdar and mom each file for sole custody in family court and appeals HC order in Supreme court

7. In April 2001, SC decides not to overturn HC judgement, orders family court to decide expeditiously in 4 months and orders family court to not be influenced by the HC order which SC was not convinced was in the best interests of the child–IF SO WHY DID SC NOT OVERTURN IT, DOES IT EXPECT THE FAMILY COURT TO OVERTURN THE JUDGEMENT OF A HIGHER COURT?? DOES NOT MAKE SENSE

8. Family court in April 2002 gives custody to dad and visitation rights to mommy

9. In dec 2002 HC on appeal by mom gave custody to mom and visitation rights to dad

10. Dad appealed in SC again, In Jan 2004, SC did not overrule HC and felt that since child was near puberty being with mom was best. It however said that when mommy traveled abroad, child should stay with father.

11. Since then father has been fighting for custody in family courts.

12. In 2007 something happened during a visitation which led to the daughter filing a police complaint against the dad Jahgirdar (dad claims it is a false complaint) apprehending a threat to her life. read the news article here

13. Further the wife got a stay from the HC against permanent custody proceedings initiated by father in family court on the grounds of this being a mischevious application designed to disturb custody of the child. read the news article here

SO WHERE WILL THIS END UP? WHO KNOWS? BUT SOON THE DAUGHTER WILL BE 18 WHEN SHE CAN DECIDE HOW HER LIFE SHOULD PROCEED. AFTER ALL SHE HAS BEEN EMBROILED IN THIS BULLSHIT BETWEEN HER PARENTS SINCE SHE WAS 6 YRS. OLD AND PERSONALLY I WOULD NOT BLAME HER IF SHE DECIDES TO KICK BOTH HER PARENTS TO THE CURB AND HEAD OFF ON HER OWN.

READ THE 2001 SC JUDGEMENT HERE

READ THE 2004 SC JUDGEMENT HERE

Daddy Songs

I’d been hearing the song “Memphis, Tennessee” by Elvis Presley, Chuck Berry and others for decades without ever realizing what Berry, the song’s author, was talking about. It’s actually a divorced dad song about a father’s severed relationship with his 6-year-old girl, Marie.

Lyrics here

Country singer Doug Supernaw’s “I Don’t Call Him Daddy” is a moving song about an economically strained divorced dad trying to maintain his relationship with his little son. The ending is bittersweet.

Lyrics here

Sting’s “I’m so happy i can’t stop crying” shows how painful a routine divorce is for so many fathers

Lyrics here

Toby Keith’s Who’s That Man? is one of the most powerful songs about divorced dads ever written

Lyrics here

I love the last lines of country singer Tim McGraw’s song “Grown Men Don’t Cry.”

Lyrics here

Another is his 2006 song My Little Girl. McGraw has three young daughters. As I’m sure is true for many of you, McGraw’s lyrics above are pretty much a perfect description of my relationship with my little daughter. “You’ve had me wrapped around your finger since the day you were born”–yup, that’s about it.

Lyrics here

In his 2004 song Do You Want Fries With That?, McGraw sympathetically examines the raw deal given many divorced fathers. 

Lyrics here

Country singer Craig Morgan has a powerful song about a post-divorce move-away called Every Friday Afternoon. It captures the way the move-away is often a devastating blow to the post-divorce father-child relationship.

Lyrics Here

Watch video here

Another good divorced dad song is Trace Adkins’ I’m Tryin’-. Shows the hardship of dads and their treatment as a free ATM machine

Lyrics here

It Has Happened All Over Again

A few weeks ago, I blogged about an oped article in the Washington Post, where David Levy, CEO of the Children’s Rights Council advocates the presumption of joint custody and posits that “sole-custody court battles often drive mothers and fathers, pardon the expression, “nuts,”.

Again in a bitter contested divorce and custody case where the custody was granted to the mom, and subsequently mom disappeared leaving the children behind, the dad (a Linux visionary) after a six month trial has been found guilty of murder (no body, no crime scene, no reliable eyewitnesses, and virtually no physical evidence).

We will probably never know what really happened, but would things have been different if joint custody had been granted?????

READ THE STORY HERE

The story on 20/20 (three videos follow)

 

Fighting Misandry in India

Delhi Police Commissioner: No 498A Arrests W/O Permission Of DCP

The Final Report Of Film Actor Prashanth’s 498A Case (pdf is at the end)

A Guide To Surviving IPC 498A

SC Clarifies Sections 406 And 498A – 2007

AP HC Acknowledges The Abuse Of 498A – 2007  —

Justice Dhingra Clarifies Issues Of Jurisdiction In An NRI 498A Case- Jan 20

SC Explains The Applicability Of Section 498A In A Judgment – 2002

Hyderabad Police: No Arrest In 498A Cases Without Permission Of DCP – 2002

Men Wail on Renuka’s shoulders

E-plaint lands NRI hubby behind bars

Harassed husbands?

Law with flaw

In India Feminist laws have harassed women as well

Police circular in Delhi–watch below

Leverage YOU TUBE in your fight for JUSTICE

About two weeks ago, former playwright and actress Tricia Walsh-Smith expressed her frustrations with her current divorce proceedings in (or on) a very public place — Ranting about her husband Philip Smith, Walsh-Smith alternated between pleas for mercy, cries of idiocy, and bouts of petty mud-slinging. Today, she actually heads to divorce court and, in preparation for that, has posted another bonkers video for all to see.
Although I usually do not blog stuff unless it is somehow related to parents and children, and I am not sure whether this socialite has really been duped, or if she is just venting, but i thought i would post her 2 videos to show the power of YOU TUBE and a little bit of drama in getting your message out if you have been/feel you have been screwed.