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Some women do real horrible things that are beyond belief. Take this example
- Husband goes to war in Iraq
- Wife cleans him out without his knowledge (forges his signature, takes out his money, buys a new house, sells the old house etc.)
- files for divorce and takes custody of the chidren
- husband comes back to devastation, homelessness, and penniless
- courts do not convict wife, gets stayed sentence for check forgery
- husband will likely lose custody of the children and husband will be asked to pay support
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Many women do this, stabbing husbands in the back and walking away w/ their kids for no apparent reason. Mostly women initiate this and husbands are the ones who hold out in hopes of reconciliation. WHY? Maybe the answer lies in utility theory, which postulates that people make choices in life that maximize their utility
- The utility from marriage for women is in childbirth, raising the children, being loved by someone, and the money that the husband earns which helps run the family
- Over time the utility of marriage decreases because children are born, they reach a certain age where they need not be cared for intensely, and love dwindles over time in most marriages unless BOTH husband and wife work hard to maintain it. The only utility that remains is from the money that husbands earn
- The utility of the alternative (splitting up and taking the children and living with old parents or independently) increases over time especially if women can access the money (they steal some and the rest is granted to them by courts as child/spousal support
- So why do husband’s hold out in the hope of reconciliation? Because most husbands go to work everyday and earn money for their family, so they can keep their wives happy and raise the kids to be honorable citizens. That is how they derive utility from the marriage and it does not decrease over time, in fact it increases over time as kids grow older, demands for money increase (kids have to go to college etc) and husbands work even harder to hold the family together
- Now when the wife initiates divorce husbands find themselves stuck doing the job to pay child/spousal support, hardly get to see their kids, and have of course lost their wife, have suffered at the hands of the skeptical society that thinks they must have done some wrong etc. So the utility of the situation they are in is really really low and they are unable to find an alternative with higher utility. This is what also leads to SUICIDES
Hence it is imperative to keep the flame of love going since the utility of love for the woman has to be kept high–that is the only hope for men. The courts cannot provide love and love cannot be bought. OR men have to find an alternative with higher utility which is made extremely hard by the family court system and is especially hard when kids are involved.
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Categories: child custody · divorce · male suicide
Tagged: DEPLOYED HUSBANDS CLEANED OUT, divorce, glenn sacks, IRAQ, men, UTILITY THEORY, women
Categories: activist movements · child custody · fatherless society · fathers · gender bias · male suicide
Tagged: india, 498a, swarup sarkar, fatherless, law misuse
My father is 81 now, and 17 years ago, just after his retirement, I went with him and my mom to see the movie “The Doctor”. The theater was crowded, so I sat in a seat in the row directly in front of my mom and dad, and during the film, I heard this distinct sniffling behind me, and assumed it was my mom. As we left the theater, I noticed my dad’s eyes were all swollen and puffy.
I said: “Were you the one who was crying?”
He replied: “Yeah. I don’t know what it is. Ever since I retired, I just cry at almost anything . . . . . . . . It’s kind of a relief.”
READ THIS ARTICLE BY A FEMINIST WHICH MAKES A TON OF SENSE TO ME
Categories: male suicide
Tagged: male suicide, men, MISOGYNY, SEXISM, STEREOTYPES
In the early morning hours of Jan. 7, 43-year-old Derrick K. Miller walked up to a security guard at the entrance to the San Diego Courthouse, where a family court had recently ruled against him on overdue child support. Clutching court papers in one hand, he drew out a gun with the other. Declaring: “You did this to me,” he fatally shot himself through the skull.
Massachusetts father Steven Cook, prevented from seeing his daughter by a protection order based upon unfounded allegations, committed suicide after he was jailed for calling his four-year-old daughter on the wrong day of the week.
Darrin White, a Canadian father who was stripped of the right to see his children and was about to be jailed after failing to pay a child support award tantamount to twice his take home pay, hung himself. His 14 year-old daughter Ashlee later wrote to her nation’s Prime Minister, saying, “this country’s justice system has robbed me of one of the most precious gifts in my life, my father.”
In India, according to National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) in 2005-06, altogether 52,483 married men committed suicide while the figure for women stood at 28,188.
In fact, a divorced father is ten times more likely to commit suicide than a divorced mother, and three times more likely to commit suicide than a married father.
READ THESE FOUR ARTICLES TO UNDERSTAND THE MAGNITUDE OF THIS PROBLEM AND ITS GLOBAL FOOTPRINT
The Silent Epidemic of Male Suicide
Mujhe Meri Biwi Se Bachao
Distraught Father’s Courthouse Suicide Highlights America’s Male Suicide Epidemic
Are Father’s rights a factor in male suicide?
Categories: child custody · divorce · fatherless society · fathers · male suicide
Tagged: child custody, gender bias, male suicide, father's rights, dowry laws, epidemic, child support, national institute of mental health, 498a, misuse of law