Parental Abduction is Child Abuse

“How about the young men in the gangs?

Do they have fathers living with them?”

“No way, man. None of them do.”

“So maybe fathers make a difference?” I suggested.

“Absolutely, man. Absolutely.”

“Why?” I probed. “What difference does a father make?”

“He’s always behind you, man, pushing you. Keeping you in line.”

 FATHERS HELP SONS STAY AWAY FROM GANGS

Tiger Woods recently won the U.S. Open at Torrey Pines despite a painful injury, and there was a beautiful little scene afterwards. Tiger was walking while holding his little 1-year-old daughter Sam Alexis Woods in his arms. Given the media crush and his leg injury, he decided to hand the girl over to his wife Elin Nordegren. Once the girl was in mom’s arms she immediately turned back to dad and reached for him, and Tiger took her back. It was a touching scene that brings back wonderful memories for any dad.

kATHLEEN PARKER’S brilliant article highlights:

That America’s fathers need to embrace their most important role is no secret.

But neither are all absent by choice, as Obama’s message implied.

His plea to fathers came on Father’s Day, a time we usually reserve for praising good men.

We pause briefly to ponder the kind of response Obama might have received had he decided to criticize negligent moms on Mother’s Day. No one in his right mind would do such a thing, but we’re so accustomed to dissing dads that even a Father’s Day reprimand leaves America’s eyelashes unruffled.

Changing the system won’t be easy, but Obama is uniquely positioned to make a difference in the conversation. He should begin by saying that bringing fathers back into the family means ending the demonization of men and the culture’s trivialization of fatherhood.

That would be a change we could believe in.

READ FULL ARTICLE HERE

In 2004, a public policy question was put to Massachusetts voters regarding shared parenting. Shared parenting is a rebuttable presumption that parents should have joint physical and legal custody of children, which may be rebutted by evidence that one parent is unfit (i.e., he or she is drug dependent, violent, absent, abusive, neglectful, etc.) or that it is not workable through no fault of one of the parents.

The public policy question was put on about 25 percent of all districts and garnered 87 percent public support. Because the number of districts was so high, its accuracy as a barometer of public sentiment is beyond all reasonable dispute.

However, two legislative cycles after the landmark 2004 public policy question, shared parenting did not become the law in Massachusetts. Gov. Deval Patrick has publically indicated his support for shared parenting, yet that has not prevented shared parenting legislation from twice dying. Given such overwhelming support by the Massachusetts voting public and the psychological community, why hasn’t shared parenting been passed into law?

feminist extremists and greedy trial lawyers is the ANSWER

READ THE FULL ARTICLE HERE

So how did it all start? William Smart, a veteran of the American Civil War, was left alone with his six children on a farm in eastern Washington state when his wife died giving birth to the youngest. One of his daughters wanted to honor her father’s strength and selflessness in raising his family alone, and proposed the idea of Father’s Day in 1909.

The role of fathers is changing. In 2006, there were 2.5 million single fathers living with their children, up from 400,000 in 1970, and comprising 19 percent of all single parents, according to U.S. Census Bureau data. About 42 percent of single fathers are divorced, 38 percent were never married and almost three-quarters had annual incomes of less than $50,000. Among the fathers who are still married, an estimated 159,000 stay at home to look after 283,000 children while their wives go out to work. About 2.9 million preschoolers, or 25 percent of the total, are regularly cared for by their father during their mother’s working hours, according to federal figures.

Dad’s changing role

The cab of Paul Goncalves’ truck looks more like a hospital room than the helm of a mighty 18-wheeler. “I’ll tell you, life has been so miserable,” Goncalves said Tuesday after carefully dressing a shunt that drains liquid from the brain of his constant passenger — his two-year-old son, Pauly. Pauly was born with hydrocephalus, an accumulation of spinal fluid on the brain. Doctors recently removed a brain cyst. In his short life, Pauly has had five brain operations.

Paul, Is he a hero father or what?

Then there is this sap who has no clue that fatherlessness is caused by family courts and vengeant psychotic mothers

Honoring Thy Fathers
So have you ever felt that you try to help around the house with child and house chores but the wife instead of complimenting you puts you down and makes you feel incompetent. Well you are not alone and this can have a negative impact on the parenting dads can provide

Mom’s toxic behavior can sabotage Dad’s child care attempts

When Mom’s criticize, Dads Back Off

A father;s tough love does not mean he does not love his kids. Read this heartwarming story of tough love and how a son remembers his dad

What a gruff dad taught his sons about parenting, work and dying

Child Says “I want Pappa”, Mommy Says “No Pappa”

CRISP the first shared parenting NGO in India organized a rally on father’s day which was a huge hit. Micky, The Lion King and Donald Duck had also attended the show. Around 100 people attended and children from the neighboring school joined after there school had closed; they will remember their father on the Father’s Day.

CHECK OUT THE PICS HERE

This week Tim Russert, NBC’s Washington Bureau Chief, a fixture in American political journalism and the host of Sunday’s “Meet the Press” died of a heart attack at the age of 58. Fathers all over have a reason to honor him–the respect he paid us in his life and his books.

In 2004, Russert published Big Russ and Me about his father, and says he received an “avalanche” of letters from men and women who wanted to tell him about their own dads. His 2006 book Wisdom of Our Fathers: Lessons and Letters from Daughters and Sons is largely a sampling of those 60,000 letters, and the book was a surprise runaway hit.

For all of us fathers, especially those who did not see/talk to their children this father’s day, these books and Tim’s experiences are a must read since it will show us how important it is to fight to get back with our babies. Read excerpts from the books and articles at Glenn Sack’s website

Tim Honored Fatherhood

Nobody except Dad was willing to help him, and he would remember that as long as he lived

It was your Dad that answered all those letters kids wrote to Santa every year

Dad would tuck me back into bed and kiss me goodnight before heading out to work. It was our special time together, and we never missed

To succeed, any movement must have slogans that “say it all” to communicate an irrefutable message that everyone instantly understands.

Yesterday, F4J staged another great protest, scaling the home of British feminist minister “Ms.” Harriet Harmon, who has been actively destroying marriage and fatherhood in Britain.

For the protest, F4J unveiled the best slogan I have seen in years: “A Father Is For Life, Not Just Conception“. If that does not say it all, I don’t know what does.

READ DAVID USHER’S FULL ARTICLE HERE

BBC ARTICLE AND VIDEOS HERE

Indian SC asks a 7 yr. old minor who has been fatherless for over an year and likely being brainwashed if she wants to stay with mother or father to decide custody. Is this OUTRAGEOUS or what? In the process the SC overturned both US and Calcutta HC orders. WAY TO GO SC…!!!!!!!!!

Does the judiciary realize that putting a child in a situation where she has to choose between her parents is insane?

Does the judiciary realize that children too have survival instincts and in cases of parental alienation will always do whatever it takes to please the alienating parent even if that means deriding/abusing/abhorring the left behind parent?

Does the judiciary realize that its prime goal is to rule keeping in mind the welfare of the child and that children are not always the best judge of their welfare, especially minors and alienated children?

READ THE ARTICLE HERE

As a dad, when my children were with me my worst nightmare always was that my kids would get into trouble, into an accident, or be in danger and daddy would be unable to help them. I used to visualize how i would live with myself if ever something like that happened. Now my wife took my kids 1000s of miles away and for days at a time i have no clue if they are even dead or alive. I can barely live with myself like this. Recently i read Jim Bouton (pitcher for the Yankees in the 60’s) heart-wrenching account of his desperate attempt to reach the hospital where his daughter lay dying and my hair stood up on end. I WISH NO PARENT HAS TO EVER GO THROUGH THIS

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