Parental Abduction is Child Abuse

As a dad, when my children were with me my worst nightmare always was that my kids would get into trouble, into an accident, or be in danger and daddy would be unable to help them. I used to visualize how i would live with myself if ever something like that happened. Now my wife took my kids 1000s of miles away and for days at a time i have no clue if they are even dead or alive. I can barely live with myself like this. Recently i read Jim Bouton (pitcher for the Yankees in the 60’s) heart-wrenching account of his desperate attempt to reach the hospital where his daughter lay dying and my hair stood up on end. I WISH NO PARENT HAS TO EVER GO THROUGH THIS

read the full story here

WOW is all i could say when i read this case. Father detains children in India, Mommy comes back to US and files a habeaus corpus petition in Kerala HC. Kerala HC orders father to return US citizen children to Mom in Texas until a court in Texas rules on custody because Texas is the right jurisdiction. WOW is all I can say….WHY

Reverse the genders in this situation and you get my story. I too filed a Habeaus Corpus in Delhi HC which was dismissed by a vague one line order (”it does not lie here, hence dismissed”) and currently I am appealing in SC and none of the judges seem to be taking the tack that this Kerala HC judge took in this case. WHY? BECAUSE I AM DADDY, I AM A MAN!!!!!

read the Kerala HC judgement here

A few days ago, i wrote on my blog about a potential utility based economic theory to try and explain why women and men do what they do? Interestingly enough I ran today into an article by the “no nonsense man” Marc Rudov himself which confirms several of my own thoughts earlier. In this article Marc discusses the controversial topic of whether the arrival of children generally results in reduced happiness in the marriage and recommends that spouses should not subordinate one another for their children but instead keep each other number 1 on their priority list.

He also postulates that Women marry to have legitimate children and receive financial support for themselves and those children. I believe this because women bring 70% of divorces. Men, on the other hand, given the highly expected financial and child-custody losses, take huge matrimonial risk because they genuinely want to be married and to have families. There’s no other way to explain the respective nuptial decisions of men and women.

read the entire article here

Also read this very insightful piece in the American law and economics review trying to explain why women are mostly divorce filers

KUDOS TO THIS JUDGE FOR UNDERSTANDING PARENTAL ALIENATION AND ITS HARMFUL EFFECTS AND INTERVENING ACTIVELY TO MITIGATE THE DELETERIOUS EFFECTS OF PARENTAL ALIENATION. I WISH MORE JUDGES ALL OVER THE WORLD INCLUDING INDIA WOULD SEE THROUGH WHAT ALIENATING PARENTS DO

A 13-year-old Ontario boy whose domineering father systematically brainwashed him into hating his mother can be flown against his will to a U.S. facility that deprograms children who suffer from parental alienation, an Ontario Superior Court judge has ruled.

Mr. Justice James Turnbull ordered the boy – identified only as LS – into the custody of his mother. He said that the boy urgently needs professional intervention to reverse the father’s attempt to poison his mind toward his mother and, in all probability, to women in general.

READ THE ENTIRE STORY HERE

Premiere Screening today May 17th in San Diego

SUPPORT? is a film that covers the everyday issues of stress, family, struggle, and suffering that families experience when put through the detrimental, winding maneuvers of the Family Court systems, which are flooded with more cases than the labor force can handle or chooses NOT to handle.

Finally, a shocking documentary that exposes the truth! Hear what experts say about how some have figured out how to make money by emphasizing on divorce and child support issues between men and women through court orders. Parents are made to pay exorbitant amounts of money in exchange for their CREDIT, HOMES, BANK ACCOUNTS, and even their FREEDOM!

Corruption “It’s Billions of Dollars - It’s Far Beyond What The Mafia Ever Did”

Its About The Kids “Parental Suicide Does Go Up Five Times For Fit Parents That Are Removed From Their Children”

Divorce Is Ugly Business “Every County in America and Every State in America is Financially Incentivized to Ruin Families”

War Is Hell - Child Support Doesn’t Have To Be! “They (Military Reservists) go off to war and they have been paying child support based on an income they are no longer making”

Parental kidnapping is a crime in the US. However the way the US code is written (see below), if the kidnapper has made allegations of domestic violence/child abuse, the kidnapper can try to take shelter under these as “affirmative defense”.
No surprise then that so few moms who kidnap their children and take them abroad escape federal warrants and criminal prosecution. Because if there is anyone who knows how to make false allegations of abuse, it is MOM. Dads, even if they were to make allegations will probably be laughed off.

§ 1204. International parental kidnapping

Some women do real horrible things that are beyond belief. Take this example

• Husband goes to war in Iraq
• Wife cleans him out without his knowledge (forges his signature, takes out his money, buys a new house, sells the old house etc.)
• files for divorce and takes custody of the chidren
• husband comes back to devastation, homelessness, and penniless
• courts do not convict wife, gets stayed sentence for check forgery
• husband will likely lose custody of the children and husband will be asked to pay support

read the story here

Many women do this, stabbing husbands in the back and walking away w/ their kids for no apparent reason. Mostly women initiate this and husbands are the ones who hold out in hopes of reconciliation. WHY? Maybe the answer lies in utility theory, which postulates that people make choices in life that maximize their utility

• The utility from marriage for women is in childbirth, raising the children, being loved by someone, and the money that the husband earns which helps run the family
• Over time the utility of marriage decreases because children are born, they reach a certain age where they need not be cared for intensely, and love dwindles over time in most marriages unless BOTH husband and wife work hard to maintain it. The only utility that remains is from the money that husbands earn
• The utility of the alternative (splitting up and taking the children and living with old parents or independently) increases over time especially if women can access the money (they steal some and the rest is granted to them by courts as child/spousal support
• So why do husband’s hold out in the hope of reconciliation? Because most husbands go to work everyday and earn money for their family, so they can keep their wives happy and raise the kids to be honorable citizens. That is how they derive utility from the marriage and it does not decrease over time, in fact it increases over time as kids grow older, demands for money increase (kids have to go to college etc) and husbands work even harder to hold the family together
• Now when the wife initiates divorce husbands find themselves stuck doing the job to pay child/spousal support, hardly get to see their kids, and have of course lost their wife, have suffered at the hands of the skeptical society that thinks they must have done some wrong etc. So the utility of the situation they are in is really really low and they are unable to find an alternative with higher utility. This is what also leads to SUICIDES

Hence it is imperative to keep the flame of love going since the utility of love for the woman has to be kept high–that is the only hope for men. The courts cannot provide love and love cannot be bought. OR men have to find an alternative with higher utility which is made extremely hard by the family court system and is especially hard when kids are involved.

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Many of you must have heard the nasty voice mail message that Alec Baldwin left for his daughter that was leaked to the press. Hear it below

Although this vmail can by no means be condoned the reality is that Kim Basinger has followed a systematic PARENTAL ALIENATION campaign for several years. And the reality is it becomes real hard for a father to keep up with this BS for too long and sooner or later something gives. There are several articles about Alec and Kim’s situation, read a few below from Glenn Sack’s blog

Alec’s video on the view

I defend Alec on CNN

Judge Judy opines on Baldwin

NOW scolds media for allowing Alec to talk about PA

Baldwin not the only culprit

Susan Estrich on Alec and PA

In defense of Alec

…AND NOW THIS WOMAN RAN AWAY TO ANOTHER SCHOOL AND IS SUING THE STUDENTS

From Joseph Rago’s Dartmouth’s Hostile Environment (Wall Street Journal, 5/5/08):

“After a winter of discontent, the snapping point came while Priya Venkatesan was lecturing on ‘ecofeminism,’ which holds, in part, that scientific advancements benefit the patriarchy but leave women out. One student took issue, and reasonably so – actually, empirically so. But ‘these weren’t thoughtful statements,’ Ms. Venkatesan protests. ‘They were irrational.’ The class thought otherwise. Following what she calls the student’s ‘diatribe,’ several of his classmates applauded.

“Ms. Venkatesan informed her pupils that their behavior was ‘fascist demagoguery.’ Then, after consulting a physician about ‘intellectual distress,’ she cancelled classes for a week. Thus the pending litigation.

READ THE ARTICLE AND ANALYSIS AT GLENN’S BLOG

READ ANOTHER ARTICLE SHOWING HOW HATED SHE WAS BY STUDENTS

The True Equality Network is a group of mostly women 40,000 strong who are a rational group unlike most radical feminists and are advocates of shared parenting who recognize the tremendous bias against dads in family courts. Recently Terri Lynn Tersak wrote a very informative detailed piece that details the economic motives behind child support, the motives behind how the state acts and why the states do not and never will collect child support arrearages.

There are several key messages and data in this piece that all of us should have at our fingertips to understand the real problem as opposed to getting carried away by what we see in the media or what is communicated based on cursory analyses.

read the full article here

The Federal incentives under the failed “Child Support Incentive and Performance Act” (CSPIA) actually pays the states more money not to collect child support arrearages than it does for collecting them and that most of the people screaming about the problems with child support are missing the most critical point; the fighting is all about the money, not about our children.

SOME KEY FACTOIDS

1)      The US Census Bureau reports that 90% of fathers with joint custody, 79.1% of fathers with visitation rights, and 44.5% of father with no visitation rights pay their child support in full.

2)      Parents who are wrongly denied visitation with children don’t pay child support regardless of the enforcement actions taken over 60% of the time.

3)      Less than 5% of male child support obligors who legitimately qualify for federally required downward modifications in their child support orders are granted reductions.

4)      The US Department of Health and Human Services (DHHS) Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE) reports that 70% of all outstanding child support arrearages are owed by obligors’ earring less than $10,000.00 per year. Most of the arrearages from this group remain unpaid after ten years.

5)      DHHS-OCSE reports that approximately 5% of all outstanding child support arrearages are owed by obligors earning over $40,000.00 per year and 100% of the arrearages owed by this group are paid within ten years.

6)      US Census Bureau figures show only 57 percent of moms and 68 percent of dads required to pay child support pay all they owe.

7)      The most effective and cost effect method of child support enforcement is enforcement of custody and visitation orders.

8 )      The most common method of wrongly reducing a parent’s time with their children is through false claims of abuse.

9)      Since 1999, every state has cut state level funding for child support enforcement by as much as 32%.

10)   False claims of abuse are so pervasive our states have started passing laws making it a criminal act to do so (The sad thing is; filing false claims of abuse is perjury and perjury has always been a crime).

One of the sources of income for the state is the “incentive payment pool”. However, a states share of the pie is much higher if the administrative costs of collecting child support is lower i.e. the states are incented based on their cost effectiveness of collecting child support payments. Hence the popularity of wage garnishment since it keeps administrative costs low, thereby increasing effectiveness, thereby increasing a state’s share of the incentive pool.

As you go down the income range of obligors, each state hits a break point where they make more money not collecting an arrearage as they would collecting. Moreover, at the bottom of the scale, they can actually loose incentive monies by collecting these accounts.

The third “class” of child support monies is called, “Collected, undistributed.” That means the states actually collected the money, but did not pay it to the parent who was expecting it. This collective amount of collected but not distributed child support payments in every state is not a trivial amount. The states will tell you they have no idea where these parents are. They tell the parents expecting the money, it wasn’t paid by obligor and it sits in interest bearing accounts and the states get to keep the interest. How do they make this work? Because fighting parents do not speak with each other and get their information from the state.

The parents who need the child support the most get the least amount of service, so our welfare reform is not replacing public assistance, it simply abandoned the neediest and their children.

Today, the American male is taught to believe that violent behavior by women is “comical” and that pusillanimous submission to violent women means you are “sensitive” and therefore worthy of being with a woman. While at the same time any type of violent behavior on the part of a man requires they receive “social retraining” and/or are incarcerated.

In order for the states to get the biggest piece of the big pie as they can, they need a lot of child support to be collected. To that end, they need a lot of child support on their books. So, they must generate the maximum amount of child support per case and being that their budgets depend on those incentives, they have to find a way to maintain those levels in as many cases as they can.

Based solely on ideology and government-funded, industry promoted propaganda, today the generally accepted perception is that only men are abusive in intimate relations and only women are abused. Only men fail to pay child support and only women suffer from the system. The long established facts clearly demonstrated by hundreds of peer-reviewed research studies show that none of this is true. Yet radical ideologues demand ever more draconian intervention with total disregard for due process and the rule of law. There is no effective oversight of what the funding is really spent on; and that the present system not only fails to serve, but abuses the abused. Yet zealots demand more of the same and ever more government funding. This is a classic approach of bureaucracies. If the current approach does not work, the obvious solutions are to throw more money at the problems and hire more bureaucrats to promote the party line.